Some tips to share on how to be Patient. Im applying to myself too! :)
Remind yourself that things take time.
People who are
impatient are people who insist on getting things done now and don't
like to waste time. However, some things just can't be rushed.
· Think about your happiest memories. Chances
are, they were instances when your patience paid off, like when you worked
steadily toward a goal that wasn't immediately gratifying, or took a little
extra time to spend leisurely with a loved one. Would you have those memories
if you had been impatient? Probably not.
· Almost anything really good in life takes
time and dedication, and if you're impatient, you're more likely to give up on relationships, goals, and other things
that are important to you. Good things may not always come to those who wait,
but most good things that do come don't happen right away.
Remember what matters.
Not focusing on what matters
most in this life fuels impatience. Move the world toward peace by being kind,
generous in forgiveness of others, being grateful for what is, and taking full
advantage of what matters most. When other less important things fuel our
impatience, taking time to remember any one of these items reduces our tendency
to want something different right now.
Always remember that you will eventually get what you
want.
(This requires maturity and patience to understand and accept!) If
you work hard at something, this may be the truth, but most of the time you
have to be patient to get what you want.
· For others, this may come as easy, but the
only thing that matters is that you know how to occupy yourself, even in the
dead of times.
· Just remember, patience is a mental skill
that you will never forget, so cherish patience as a major step for you in
life. Impatience is something not to be proud of, but something that you should
attempt to train yourself out of, before it is something that overthrows your
life.
Always have a positive outlook in life.
Being always
positive is very imperative as possessing a sense of patience. Remember that
life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.
Expect the unexpected.
Yes, you have plans, but
things don't always work out as planned. Accept the twist and turns in life
gracefully. Keep your expectations realistic. This applies not only to
circumstances, but also the behavior of those around you.
If you find yourself blowing up over your child or your
spouse accidentally spilling a drink, you're not in touch with the fact that
people aren't perfect. Even if the occasion is not an isolated incident but is
instead caused by their repeated neglect and carelessness, losing your patience
isn't going to make it any better. That's something to be addressed with
discussion and self-control.
Give yourself a break.
The meaning of this is
twofold. First, take a few minutes to do absolutely nothing. Just sit quietly
and think. Don't watch television; don't even read. Do nothing. It
may be hard at first, and you may even feel impatient after a minute or two,
but by taking some time out you can essentially slow your world down, and
that's important to develop the attitude necessary to develop patience.
Second, stop holding yourself and the world around you to
unattainable standards. Sure, we'd all be more patient if babies didn't cry,
dishes didn't break, computers didn't crash, and people didn't make mistakes -
but that's never going to happen. Expecting the world to run smoothly is like
beating your head against the wall. Give yourself a break!
REMEMBER!!!!
· Remember, for every minute you are angry you
lose 60 seconds of happiness.
· Developing patience is not easy, and you've
got to be motivated to become more patient. You can do it, however, and you
should. Patience can reduce your stress levels and improve your health and
longevity, and patience can actually make you happier. Whenever you find
yourself growing impatient, think about the positive effects of patience, and
remember that impatience only makes things worse.
· Instead of becoming annoyed by a distraction
(such as a crying baby on a long flight), try just being a passive observer. If
you make it daily practice to observe things and events without judging or
forming an opinion, being able to acknowledge something without allowing it to
annoy you will become easier with time.
· Boredom can make it difficult to be patient.
If you're waiting in the doctor's office and the only thing you can concentrate
on is the ticking clock, good luck trying to be patient. If, however, you can read a book
or do a crossword puzzle, time will fly by (or at least creep less slowly). If
you've nothing to do while you're waiting, just try to appreciate the fact that
you have nothing to do. In a fast-paced world, opportunities to do nothing are
rare and should be cherished for their time to be un~bothered by minor things.
· Being patient with others is a form of
respect for them. Nobody is perfect, and if you want to be a good parent, boss,
spouse, or friend, it's important to recognize this and to be patient with
people. "Don't sweat the small stuff" is a good motto. You and
everyone around you will be more relaxed and able to get along much better.
· One way to release stress is to write about
it. Studies have shown that people who write about their emotions tend to
become more calm and learn to accept the emotions that they are experiencing.
so, the next time you feel angry, just write about it and try to meditate over
why you would be so angry.
· A quote from James Clavell's novel, Shogun:
“Karma is the beginning of knowledge. Next is patience. Patience is very
important. The strong are the patient ones. Patience means holding back your inclination
to the seven emotions: Hate, adoration, joy, anxiety, anger, grief, fear. If
you don’t give way to the seven, you’re patient, then you’ll soon understand
all manner of things and be in harmony with eternity.”
· Once you are able to change your attitude so
that you are a patient person, you will find that patience can help you endure
any tribulation, no matter how long-lasting or difficult. More importantly,
perhaps, patience can help you achieve your goals.
· Many people find that meditation and yoga
helps patience.
· Be present and focused on the task at hand.
You may think you have many things to do today, but you have only one thing to
do, what is in front of you. A sense of completion after finishing that task
will reduce anxiety and promote a sense of accomplishment.
MORE TIPS
- Patience should be no excuse for procrastination. While patience can help you be okay with doing nothing, it's important to understand that idleness breeds impatience and stress.
- Be patient with others who display little patience. If you seemed to feel bothered too much by them, make an excuse to locate yourself somewhere else and take a break from their anxiety-inducing behavior.
